What To Do If She’s Talking About Her Ex. Week #7 of the 150 Date Challenge

Have you ever been on a date and the girl started talking about something negative…..for a looooong time? Maybe you asked a question about an ex-boyfriend and she just kept on talking about it.

That’s what happened to me this week. I asked my date, Silvana, this great screening question: “If I had to ask your ex-boyfriend to name 2 things he didn’t like about you, what would he say?” (you can use that one if you want)

Well she went on and on and I could tell she had some hang-ups about her ex and this started to change her mood….for the worse. So what should you do in this circumstance? Simple….change the damn subject in a hurry. So that’s what I did. I changed the subject. I was like, “Ooooook, no more ex talk, you need a hug (we hugged and started talking about something else)”

Now here is this week’s 150 Date Challenge Breakdown:

Internet Dating Progress Week 7

Initial Emails Sent:
okCupid – 6
Match.com – 6
eHarmony – 0
Plenty of Fish – 2

Phone Numbers Received:
okCupid – 4
Match.com – 4
eHarmony – 0
Plenty of Fish – 0

1st Dates:
okCupid – 2
Match.com – 0
eHarmony – 1
Plenty of Fish – 0

Total Dates this week: 3

This week’s Date Spotlight:


Age: 27

Height: 5’0”

Ethnicity: Hispanic from Peru

  • What I liked:
    She was cute & short. I liked that she was so short. I’m 6’3”  but for some reason I liked that she was short. It’s like she’s more huggable. She looked a bit conservative but put off a vibe like she has a wild streak. That contrast was intriguing. She has also already called me to invite me to dinner. I’m going.
  • What I didn’t like:
    She wanted to change the date location last minute to a place closer to her house. Blah-
  • What I learned:
    If you ask a question about the girls ex like I did, be prepared to change the subject…..quickly.

That’s it for this week. The eDatingDoc Academy will be launching soon, I’ve been working like crazy on that. If you want to start having fun with cooler girls, I’ll be teaching you how to get those girls. It’s like a step-by-step online dating academy.

Also if you haven’t had the chance, check out my secret formula for choosing the best 1st date location.

  • Sophy Singer December 13, 2011, 11:08 pm

    Love what you’re doing here.  As far as going on and on about an ex on a 1st date, that’s definitely amateur dating at its best.  EVERYONE has baggage from an ex in the past and once that topic is sparked, it’s easy to drag on about it. Takes some self-control and dating discipline to keep from becoming “that girl.” To be fair though, the question you asked Sivana was extremely lame. Sorry man, I am just being honest here.  It sounds like you stole it straight from Eharmony’s “guided communication”questions.  It sounds like an interview and leads to a topic that is best avoided on fist dates.  If you don’t want your date to talk about her ex, then don’t ASK about her ex.

    • Radio Wright December 20, 2011, 7:16 pm

      Lame! Sophy! Lame as in sexy right!? 😉 I agree with you though. After so many dates I just wanna shake things up!

  • Sassy May 3, 2012, 11:17 pm

    this is great! LOVE hearing a guys point of view…. Plan on stealing ur advice too 🙂

    • Radio Wright May 3, 2012, 11:52 pm

       Glad you liked it Miss Sassy 🙂

  • Denise August 29, 2015, 5:33 pm

    The best part of that story is that when you said “ok, let’s change the subject”, you added a hug. Excellent transition move to ease the awkwardness and negative vibes.


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