How to Kiss a Crazy Ass Girl with APF. Week #8 of the 150 Date Challenge

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This is how to kiss a crazy chic.

So I’m ordering my drink, I look back at my ridiculously hot date and she has the APF. What IS the APF you may be thinking. Well it’s the Angry Pirate Face. She says, “Why were you looking at the bartender like that? You were practically drooling on yourself.” I thought she was kidding – she’s not.

She starts giving me shit. (Remember this is our 1st date. I just met this girl and hour before.) She’s acting ridiculous so why not do the same PLUS I wanted her to shut up. Guess what I do? I kiss her! 

I pull back and look at her. I see the coolest range of emotion quickly wash across her face as she tries to compute what I just did. It starts with complete shock then anger then astonishment then excitement. I see a little smirk of a smile. I see what she’s thinking. “That was unexpected and ballsy and I like it.” I kiss her again.

Hold up! Here is this week’s 150 Date Challenge Breakdown:

Initial Emails Sent:
okCupid – 4
Match.com – 5
eHarmony – 3
Plenty of Fish – 0

Phone Numbers Received:
okCupid – 4
Match.com – 0
eHarmony – 2
Plenty of Fish – 0

1st Dates:
okCupid – 2
Match.com – 2
eHarmony – 1
Plenty of Fish – 0

Total Dates this week: 5

This week’s Date Spotlight:

Melissa

Age: 26

Height: 5’5”

Ethnicity: Hispanic from Cuba

  • What I liked:
    Her looks, that’s about it. Well, now that I think about it, I actually kinda liked the drama she caused in the beginning. After the initial nutso speed bump, the date ended up being fun and we had a great time.
  • What I didn’t like:
    She was fu#%ing nuts! I mean, I wasn’t paying any attention to the damn bartender. The bartender WAS cute so maybe my date had some confidence issues or she just wanted to entertain herself by giving me shit. I don’t know.
  • What I learned:
    We have the ability to create our reality. If we’re fun and confident and know what we’re after. We start to mold our reality. Some girls will be like, “I want to be in his world” & jump right in. Ohhh & Girls dig confidence. Of course I already knew this but it’s just one more leg holding up the belief table.

    I recently heard Sasha Daygame say this: “Confidence isn’t something that can be taught. It’s the sum total of your experiences.” I completely agree. What I CAN tell you how to start getting confidence though. If you want to do something and you feel uncomfortable & scared…DO IT ANYWAY!

What are your thoughts about this date? I’d like to hear them. To any of the girls reading this. Did I deserve a slap? Do you guys think I handled it well?

The adventures will continue next week!

JOIN THE CONVERSATION 21 Comments
  • Sasha Daygame December 24, 2011, 12:32 am

    Good times. Escalation is often the problem solver. Hang on – I say that about confidence! You totally got that from me!! 😛

    -Sasha

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    • Radio Wright January 28, 2012, 1:23 am

      I did get that from you Sasha!

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  • Chris Hood January 26, 2012, 12:24 am

    Brilliant

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    • Radio Wright January 28, 2012, 1:22 am

      lol Thanks Chris!

      Reply
  • O4fuxsakes October 15, 2012, 5:56 am

    cool so you sexually assaulted someone 

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  • O4fuxsakes October 17, 2012, 12:17 am

    you clearly sexually assaulted this woman. that would explain “the coolest range of emotion” that “wash[ed] across her face” she was trying to emotionally process an assault. also way to remove my first comment. i’m going to keep posting this until you address it. 

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    • Radio Wright October 17, 2012, 1:54 am

      We’ve got trolls afoot!

      Big fugly trolls.

      How do most first kisses happen?

      The guy leans in, and kisses the girl.

      What does a girl do when a guy leans in but she doesn’t want to kiss just yet?

      She turns her head.

      Miss APF had all the time in the world to turn her head but didn’t.

      I’m not gonna name any names but someone cough* (O4fuxsakes) cough* needs a hug.

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      • O4fuxsakes October 17, 2012, 3:42 am

        also i am a troll but i’m not fugly i’m pretty sure i’m what your people would describe as an HB8. an HB6 at the very least. hope that helps. but please continue to describe women in derogatory terms such as these. once i get past the sexism (which is easy to do as a societal bombardment with it has numbed me) it is pretty hilarious. 

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        • Radio Wright October 17, 2012, 4:05 am

          Ohh you’re a girl? 

          Well a troll isn’t a derogatory term for women. 

          Troll:
          One who posts a deliberately provocative message to a newsgroup ormessage board with the intention of causing maximum disruption and argument.Thanks for all your great energy btw.

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          • Grace October 10, 2015, 11:12 pm

            I’m not sure that I would call this sexual assault either… but I think that it might have been cruddy that you kissed her without permission. Many people are uncomfortable with unexpected physical contact. I, being a rape victim, am; and I probably would have hit you… tbh. I mean, you DON’T always HAVE to get super explicit permission to kiss someone, but on a first date you should have gotten some form of consent.. leaning in and waiting for her to kiss you… or even asking. That can actually be very romantic; and show the girl that you care her comfort. Again, I’m not saying you’re an evil rapist or something… there’s just better ways to handle things so that you don’t make anyone unnecessarily uncomfortable… or worse, bring back a traumatic experience for a victim.

          • Radio Wright October 19, 2015, 8:37 pm

            Thanks for your comment Grace. I leaned in, she saw that I was going to kiss her and she didn’t turn away. I didn’t force anything at all. Pretty sure you wouldn’t hit me for that…. hopefully.

    • AG30 November 2, 2012, 3:56 pm

      Wowee 04fuxsakes

      Sexual assault is kind of a big conclusion to jump to don’t you
      think? Can any of us know what’s going on inside someone’s head? You can
      say she was processing sexual assault just as easily as I can say she
      was naming their future children. lol

      Either way, all we can do is know someone’s actions. If they kissed
      again and she kissed back it might seem to some like she was having fun
      (not to mention they were at the bar of a crowded place). Of course, I
      understand it would be easy for you 04fuxsakes to say maybe after being assaulted she was in dreadfully horrific fear for her life (in that crowded bar), and scared to
      death to contradict his actions. You have to admit, neither of us
      really knows. All we can know are their actions in their specific
      circumstances.

      When we draw very large conclusions based on very little
      information(especially without even asking for it) it speaks more to the
      commenter and their specific perspective on life than to Radio or
      Melissa’s thought process.

      I’d at least want to ask how the rest of the date went before I
      jumped to conclusions like sexual assault though. Wouldn’t you?
      Otherwise people might start jumping to conclusions about your thought
      process and perspective. Though I’m guessing your intentions are good
      04fuxsakes.

      Comments aside, I think the story of the date was a well-intended
      lesson in self-confidence. Something I’ve rarely found to be a bad thing
      (when dating or otherwise). I think most people see it that way (though
      of course I can’t be certain).

      All the Best,
      Ben

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  • AG30 November 2, 2012, 3:21 pm

    Wowee.

    Sexual assault is kind of a big conclusion to jump to don’t you think? Can any of us know what’s going on inside someone’s head? You can say she was processing sexual assault just as easily as I can say she was naming their future children. lol Either way, all we can do is know someone’s actions. If they kissed again and she kissed back it might seem to some like she was having fun (not to mention they were at the bar of a crowded place). Of course I understand it would be easy for you to say maybe she was in dreadful fear for her life and scarred to death to contradict his actions, but you have to admit neither of us really knows. All we can know are their actions.

    I’d at least want to ask how the rest of the date went before I jumped to conclusions like sexual assault though. Wouldn’t you 04fuxsakes? Otherwise people might start jumping to conclusions about your thought process and perspective. I’m guessing your intentions are good though.

    Comments aside, I think the story of the date was a well-intended lesson in self-confidence. Something I’ve rarely found to be a bad thing (when dating or otherwise). I think most people see it that way (though of course I can’t be certain).

    All the Best

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  • boyjenius March 9, 2013, 8:17 pm

    Wow, I seriously thought shit was about to go down when you kissed her. I guests that was the right move for her. Props dude lol

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  • Matt January 1, 2014, 1:10 pm

    Your reaction was cool if that’s what you wanted: A kiss.

    In the long-term (i.e. a relationship) your reaction was a bad one: You rewarded her for drama. I’m pretty sure you didn’t make it to intercourse or a second date. But if all you want from a girl is a kiss that’s cool.

    Matt

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    • Radio Wright January 1, 2014, 9:10 pm

      Thanks for the response Matt.

      In my view, that would not be considered a reward for bad behavior.

      I didn’t reward some tantrum (extinction burst) with what she wanted.

      Rather than reacting emotionally or trying to explain myself, I completely handled her shit test in one of the most masculine ways possible.

      How would you have handled that situation? Always interested in different approaches.

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      • Matt January 1, 2014, 11:01 pm

        Wow, didn’t expect an answer that quick.

        It all depends on the situation and what my goal is. And I don’t really have a clue what both were: I have no idea how she said what she said, what her body language told you, what your previous interactions were and so on.

        Now… How would I have handled that situation..?

        Well, if I saw it as negative behavior/ a shit test I’d probably just give her a bored look and invest less in her / get investment from her ( -> I don’t point her faux pas out, but make sure she understands that she made a mistake and has to catch up).

        In my opinion you did the exact opposite: As a reaction to her shit test you invested in her (kissed her) and even needed a reaction/permission from her to continue (which is pretty weak). Although, if your vibe was very dominant for the whole date or you don’t see it as negative behavior from her etc. it’s all cool. I wasn’t there with you so I’m not in the position to judge you.

        And of course I’d escalate/kiss her that day, just not as a reward for a shit test (and probably not in a crowded bar).

        Matt

        P.s. I hope you don’t take anything personal, I think you’re cool and I just try to help (;

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        • Radio Wright January 7, 2014, 7:46 am

          I read the situation and it worked out but I see how breaking rapport in the way you mention Matt may have worked… but I also just wanted to entertain myself at the time.

          Thanks for the feedback gangster.

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  • Sean February 11, 2014, 5:56 am

    Dude, no real pics, ever? I mean… honestly if you dont post some real pics, who is to say you arent just writing this up, or cutting and pasting it. Just like we fool the girls, maybe you are fooling us? Why no pics? Why not just put a black bar over her eyes? Why no selfies? Tell her you are doing a dating blog and need pic. I mean… shit you are 4 for 4 bating .1000 on OKC getting numbers. An expert like you cant get a few pics? Man up and show us punks how its done!

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    • Radio Wright March 24, 2014, 4:48 pm

      Yo Sean, I feel it shows a lack of confidence when I see a guy always posting photos with different girls as though he bases his value on the quality of the girl he’s with. I don’t.

      It’s also a little douchey in my opinion. However, I know what you’re saying and in one of my upcoming reports requires the photo of the model I went on a few dates with, so I’ll include several photos in that post but that will be an exception. I’ll send you a few photos now though in the name of openness. Comment back here if you get them, not sure if this email address you left will work. (Who uses AOL?)

      Update: Seans email address didn’t work – the email bounced back.

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  • AddictedToDating February 15, 2014, 11:46 am

    Radio, you took the phrase “Shut up and kiss me!” A level further. As For the classification of assault, I would say nay, because she was willing. And as for the people here who seem to be embarrassed by PDA, grow up, you’re not in middle school anymore..
    I do have a question for you though. What are some of the opening lines/initial messages you send that you founds stands a good chance of being replied to?

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