Now that you’ve found the perfect first date location, your home base, here are a few examples on how to best use it.
I show up for the 8pm date on time. (I’ve read that some guys recommend being late, don’t do that. Be a man, do what you say you’re gonna do.) We sit at the bar for a drink – coffee, tea, hot chocolate – anything you like. (If you have an alcoholic drink, keep it to a minimum.)
We talk for a bit, getting to know each other. After about 30 minutes I recommend bouncing to different seating. Since we’re at the bar, I may recommend the couches outside.
I’ll say something simple like:
Let’s go outside. (Don’t ask. Be decisive. Just say, “let’s go outside” in a nice way, stand up and wait, she’ll follow.)
The key here is bouncing to a new area.
Another example: If you started by sitting at a table inside then bounce to a table outside.
Remember, in the previous post where I went over what to look for in choosing your First Date Home Base, the reason for bouncing to many locations in a single date is that it creates several memories of different activities and environments. This creates comfort & familiarity. She’ll get this weird feeling that she really got to know you and the date will stand out. If you stay in just one place then you only spend a single moment together.
Now that we’re at the new seating, we continue getting to know each other. If I like the girl, at some point I’ll bounce to a completely new location for a sweet treat.
It’s time for chocolate dessert!
I’ll say something like:
“Hey, I want some dessert. The place across the street has the most mouth-watering warm chocolate cake ever in the history of the universe. Come on.” I’ll extend my arm, gentlemanly and walk her to get dessert.
Some girls will not want dessert for whatever reason – I’m on a diet – cough*. Before this even comes up, if you add this next sentence when you’re telling her about it, she’ll agree:
“Can you help me eat it – I don’t want to eat the whole thing.” This way you’re addressing any objection before it ever come up.
Why chocolate dessert?
99% of girls love chocolate! Chocolate causes the release of all kinds of feel good chemicals into the brain.
Endorphins that reduce stress and lead to feelings of euphoria and even phenylethylamine.
Phenylethylamine is called the “love drug” because it causes your pulse rate to quicken, resulting in a similar feeling to when someone is in love.
I’m sure you’ve heard girls compare chocolate to sex! Need I say more?
I’ll extend my arm, gentlemanly and walk her to get dessert. We eat the chocolate treat and I end the date like a gentleman. Don’t be a pushy horn dog like most guys. I’m not even one to go for a kiss on the first date unless I’m getting some super signals.
Don’t worry, after a date like that, she’ll be chasing you soon enough.
Ok, so that’s a quick example of how to use your home base first date location. Let me know what you think. Any ideas on first Dates? I’d like to hear about them. Comment below.