If you haven’t read it yet, start here.
Now for the eHarmony Makes or Breaks List.
The “Breaks” are more important so that’s where we’ll start.
And they are more important because they are littered with Red Flags.
Here’s an example:
What does this communicate to the girl?
This guy has been cheated on, definitely has trust issues because he was cheated on, there was probably a reason he was cheated on and she doesn’t want to waste her time finding out why he were cheated on….
See what I mean? So let’s stay away from the Red Flags.
Green – My 10 recommended Breaks
Red – Do NOT use these.
Black – These are somewhat neutral. If any stand out to you, they are ok to choose.
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And now for the “Makes”. There are no “Red Flag” makes so you can select whichever are most important to you. Just think about the personality of your perfect girl and get to selecting.
Think about what may be important to your type of girl then choose at least one “Make” if it’s something you want but wouldn’t normally select. This will build more of a connection.
For example; Many women on eHarmony want a guy that would like to start a family. Most guys don’t select Family even though they are interested in that with the right woman.